“My experience was what Eugene O’Kelly calls a perfect moment.
I read O’Kelly’s book, Chasing Daylight, this past weekend on the recommendation of my dear friend (and coach) Dan Meub. It was, as they say, “a quick read.” I started it on a flight to Orlando and finished it before I got back. Few books have had such a profound impact on me in such a short time.
O’Kelly was the former CEO of KPMG, one of the largest accounting firms in the world. He had a great life, a wonderful marriage of 27 years, and two adoring daughters. He loved his job, and he loved his golf.
As with most CEOs, his life was very busy. Over the course of a decade, he had managed to have a weekday lunch with his wife just twice. His calendar was booked 18 months in advance. He routinely worked 12-15 hour days. Most of his waking moments were spent thinking about the future.
However, all of that came to screeching halt when suddenly, at age 53, he was diagnosed with late-stage brain cancer. His doctors soberly told him he had maybe three months to live. He quickly came to the conclusion that recovery was impossible. A miracle was unlikely.
Over the next 90 days, he determined that he would die well. In true CEO-fashion, he created goals for himself. He made a list of important relationships he wanted to “unwind.” By this he meant that he wanted to bring closure to those relationships and communicate how much each person had meant to him. He also learned to meditate. And, most importantly, he tried to create as many “perfect moments” as he could.
According to O’Kelly, a perfect moment is an experience with others when time stands still. It is a time full of the present, when the past is left behind and the future is set aside. It is a special time of focused attention and heightened awareness. Interruptions and distractions are consciously excluded. Cell phones are off. Hearts are wide open. All that matters is this moment—the people I am with and the conversation we are having now.
7 Comments:
Ooohhh...perfect indeed. I do find that a perfect day always constitutes time spent with family in a place that is "home". Enjoy yours today friend...the weather is picture perfect here today and I plan to get out and revel in it!
Love you,
Melinda
There is NO place like home! Mmmm, those pictures are making me hungry!!!
A perfect day for me always includes sleeping late, a good back rub, having both of my girls with me and my husband cooking on the grill. Just being together with the people I love. It doesn't get any better than that!
Enjoy Melinda!! We are still pretty warm but seeing some hints of cooler, just a tease but it instills hope!!
Karla, I love your perfect day...a back rub seems really good right now as I seem to have pulled something dragging luggage and books around the nation!!
Enjoy ladies...
My goodness, Pat, you certainly have been busy. Home is just about perfect, isn't it? I don't care how humble my abode, there's no place like it.
I have a bag of mix for that very same pumpkin bread and jar of pumpkin apple butter that was given to me by one of my daughters in love months ago. Just waiting for the "perfect" time to bake it.
Oh, that every moment was a perfect moment, where I was totally engaged with the person/circumstances before me.
May your weekend be perfectly delightful!
WOW-so many my minds is in a spin !!But 4 big ones when the Dr. said {it's a girl-and she's perfect !!Love you !!
I love you too Mom!! :0)
xoxo
My perfect days always revolve around home and my family. Like yesterday, we took out our fall decorations and decorated the house. So fun and the kids love it.
Hugs-
Jennifer
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